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Coping with Depression

What is it? 

An individual experiencing depression experiences sadness and/or a lack of desire most of the time for at least two weeks. 


How to Cope 

  1. Recognize the signs and symptoms: Each individual can experience depression differently. They can experience a different number of depression symptoms, with different levels of impairment to their daily life. Symptoms may include:
    • Depressed mood more often than not 
    • Loss or decreased interest in things that were once enjoyable 
    • Change in weight without trying 
    • Sleeping a lot during the day or inability to fall asleep at night 
    • Moving very slowly or difficulty staying still 
    • Extreme tiredness or lack of energy 
    • Feeling worthless, hopeless, or guilty 
    • Feeling disconnected from others 
    • Low motivation 
    • Lack of interest in people or activities 
    • Trouble concentrating or making decisions 
    • Feeling bad about themselves or that they don’t have anything to offer 
    • Thoughts of death and/or suicide 


  2. Fight the urge to isolate: The episode can lead to a decreased desire to be around other people and the belief that others around you don’t understand your pain. Your mind has probably given you an endless amount of reasons why you’re alone, or should be. In addition, you have negative thoughts about yourself. This is a dangerous, slippery slope because it can lead you to sink deeper into depression.   
  3. Do the basics: Keep up with the tasks you already do daily: Brushing your teeth, showering regularly, changing out of pajamas, getting dressed for the day, eating a meal, or taking part in a small activity that brings you enjoyment. Keep these automatic tasks automatic. It may feel like you’re just going through the motions, but go through them. The difficult position people find themselves in is that they stopped doing these regular, daily tasks and now can’t even imagine doing tasks that require more physical and mental energy, such as attending a get-together with friends, showing up to work or class regularly, doing homework, grocery shopping, or being invested in their relationships. Although these daily tasks may seem quite small, they are pivotal in managing depressive episodes. 
  4. Separate yourself from the episode: Depression can influence your thoughts, what you focus on, and how you feel about yourself. It’s easy to be guided by an episode. Episodes sit in the command center of your mind and give orders. After recognizing the signs and symptoms, you can start to identify your own signs that the episode is forming, then consider that your experience may be the episode. This helps you to press the pause button so that you use helpful strategies to prevent yourself from sinking deeper into the depression quicksand. 
  5. Be mindful of what makes your depression worse: Negative thoughts and difficult emotions can influence how you view the outside world.  Social media and watching the news can have an impact on how someone feels. Certain stressors or relationships can also be difficult to manage during periods of depression. What is causing your distress, or what is increasing your feelings of sadness? 
  6. Try therapy: Therapy helps a person experiencing depression by attending to and working on how to manage the symptoms, so that the symptoms don’t seep into the person’s life as much. Those who experience depression may notice that through therapy, their relationships improve, going to work becomes manageable, there’s increased ability and performance at school, and the person has hope, along with the desire and motivation to do things. 



Don’t wait to get the help you need. If you would like to take the next step towards finding a therapist, contact Ethera to get matched with a provider. 


About the Author:  Robyn Tamanaha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, writer, and podcaster. She has a private practice in Irvine, CA and is the creator and host of the podcast Books Between Sessions. 

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Therapy Styles

Short Term (Solution-focused, etc.) 
Ideal for those who are coming in with a specific problem they’d like to address and gain clarity on. Typically, short term therapies are present focused and do not dive deep into your past.

Structured therapies are goal and progress oriented. Therapists may incorporate psychoeducation and a specific “curriculum.” In order to stay on track, therapists may provide worksheets and homework.

Insight-oriented (Psychodynamic, Existential, etc.) 
Exploring the past and making connections to present issues can help clients gain insight. Getting to the root of the issue and finding deeper self-awareness can help with long-term change.

Non-directive (Humanistic, Person-centered, etc.)
Going with the flow and seeing where it leads.

Behavioral (CBT, DBT, etc.)
Focuses on changing potentially unhealthy or self-destructive behaviors by addressing problematic thought patterns and specific providing coping skills.

Trauma Focused (EMDR, TF-CBT, etc.)
Recognizing the connection between trauma experiences and your emotional and behavioral responses, trauma focused therapy seeks to help you heal from traumas.